For many years, it has been said black men are not interested in dating black women for a variety of reasons.Now, black men, black women, blue people and purple folks have every right to date outside of their race, as long as they do not put down the members of their community.Ok Cupid, a well-known online dating website, showed black men look outside of their own racial group when looking for a significant other.From match scores in 2014, black men are 2 percent more likely to look for an Asian mate, 1 percent more likely to look for a black mate, 2 percent more likely to look for a Hispanic mate and -6 percent less likely to choose a white mate.Single ladies, beware: If you catch one of these guys on your line, it would be wise to just throw him back in the sea and keep trying for your prizewinner. He is likely a mama's boy and will expect everything to be done for him.There are so many people popping up on the dating scene who were burned by their first marriages or serious relationships. Every question you ask them is only half-answered because the walls they have built up inside are so high and impenetrable. If you are looking for a mature, meaningful relationship that is going to go somewhere, he isn't for you.Throughout my life, anytime a relationship has ended, someone has always said to me, “There are plenty of fish in the sea.”What was once a dating pool full of great fish that were easy to catch now seems like a vast, empty ocean.When you cast out your line, the only thing biting your bait seems to be sharks or guppies. He probably works a job you had in college and has no real ambition to do much else.
They generally attract mates who are codependent because they are often so eager to please.
As marriage rates decrease, black men still marry and date outside of their race/ethnic group, but not as much as people believe. Census Bureau showed that 86 percent of black married men were married to black women, 7 percent have a white spouse, 4 percent have a Hispanic spouse (regardless of race) and 3 percent are married to another race/ethnic group.
Statistics show marriage rates among black men is higher among black men and women than with other groups. A common misconception states that black men are not marrying black women, but that is statistically untrue.
So what did Sy draw from this experiment of his as a woman in the world of online dating?
Talking to Mashable, he said, “Receiving so many messages was certainly an initial ego boost.