"If they're not, they may feel deficient in some way or that something's wrong."But, he adds, "there are huge individual differences in sex drives and individual differences in sexual chemistry within relationships and all sorts of other things — job stress, kids — all sorts of things influence it.It would be alarming if people got too overly concerned with where they stack up in terms of frequency."The U. survey sample, which is not nationally representative nor randomly selected, is 89% white, 68% women, and 56% ages 35 and older."Probably at best, it tells us something about the white, probably better-educated, somewhat higher-income population in the U.
And that I will never have to do it again is a hope that I am against hope hopen.What's "normal" and what's not when it comes to human behavior, sexuality and relationships?Researchers who solicited responses to an online survey of almost 100,000 people from around the world, including 23,000 in the USA, get at that question and more than 1,000 others in a new book called The Normal Bar, out Feb. Among their findings, based on responses from individuals 18 and older who are in relationships (both heterosexual and same-sex):-- 40% say they have sex three to four times a week.-- 48% of men and 28% of women report having fallen in love at first sight.-- 43% of men and 33% of women say they are keeping a major secret from their partner."This 'normal' is different from most normals," says co-author Pepper Schwartz, a sociologist at the University of Washington in Seattle.That may be why so many couples avoid the topic entirely - particularly in the early stages of a relationship.Ignoring the topic would have been the easy way out for Pam and Larry, who met on Senior People and now are married.