Parents are living longer, some adult children make childishness a career, and it isn’t easy to say no to a son or daughter, regardless of their age.Then add in the grandchildren, hostages held for ransom as your child essentially blackmails you into supporting their drug and/or alcohol abuse: “Give me the money or I will kill myself,” or “they will starve,” or “we’ll be on the streets,” is the implied or actual threat, yet the money does no good.YES, you heard me right, they GET ADDICTED to the alcoholic in their lives. That is they depend on them to feel good about themselves. : If the alcoholic is in a bad mood so is the codependent. For more on this topic read codependency in relationships.
Read my page on spotting alcoholic behavior to discover whether you or someone you care about is drinking alcoholically.
The drug, which is to be taken once a day, has been licensed for ‘the reduction of alcohol consumption in adult patients with alcohol dependence without physical withdrawal symptoms and who do not require immediate detoxification’.
Obvious they may be, but they can never be overemphasized.
He had special insight into what made adult children of alcoholic’s needs different, and did a remarkable job of articulating ACo A issues. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism d. We confuse love with pity and tend to “love” people who we can `pity” and “rescue”. We have stuffed our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (denial). We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us. Alcoholism is a family disease and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of the disease even though we did not pick up the drink. We had come to feel isolated, and uneasy with other people, especially authority figures.
Or, maybe he was just a regular guy–but one who was willing to speak up. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. To protect ourselves, we became people pleasers, even though we lost our own identities in the process.