Even if you’re on excellent form, the same doesn’t necessarily apply to the person on the other end of the phone.He or she might have just had an unexpected (and unwelcome) visit, or burnt the dinner. This will help you avoid catching them in the middle of washing their dog, their hair, etc! Be confident and talk to them like you’d talk to one of your friends. To avoid this pitfall, I’d suggest having a checklist which is especially easy to do since you’ve already communicated and there a ton of questions that you can ask them about their profile. You should definitely avoid talking about your exes, politics, recently deceased relatives or pets or anything that makes you feel less than happy. Asking questions of this type helps to foster your conversation and allow them to get a better feel for you as a match. Even though e Harmony does a very good job of matching you, I’ve seen and read a lot of profiles where users have taken some liberty with what they’ve written and embellished to varying degrees. If you’re going to do it, it should be near the end of the call. You’ve invested so much to get to this point; don’t be afraid to reveal that you’ve looked forward to speaking with them. Don’t get me wrong — it’s ok to have some silence here and there, but you really want to avoid extended periods of dead air. Be prepared to talk about your life, friends and family, hobbies and recent accomplishments. This is the most important piece of advice I cannot reiterate enough.It may be that someone who doesn’t say much in writing can really come alive once they get on the other end of the line.
What I have found over the past 10 years as a dating coach, and from my own journey to find my own husband, this can be trickier than you think.It’s always exciting when you have your first phonecall with someone you’ve met online.And that’s how is should be: if you’re excited, then it should help you to get to know each other, but it can also cause a few problems from time to time.D on't call men (see Rule #5), except to occasionally return their calls. That way you seem busy and you won't give away too much about yourself or your plans (even if you don't have any plans).When a man calls you, don't stay on the phone for more than ten minutes. By ending the conversation first, you leave them wanting more. And one of their biggest faults is talking to men as if they were their girlfriends, therapists, or next-door neighbors.