The Rise of Texting For many people, texting is a major source of relationship communication.People age 17 to 25 tend to text their romantic interests more than older individuals do (Coyne, Stockdale, Busby, Iverson, & Grant, 2011).But anytime you try to articulate why it's such a bad idea, somebody in the group inevitably pipes up and says, "My cousin Jill New Coke! TALKING, as in actually picking up the phone/webcam, takes time out of your day.Also, she met her husband on vacation in 2001 and they just had their second baby! And you'll know soon enough whether this person is a high-enough priority for you to spend that time."We talked multiple hours a day, every day," says Julie, 31, who met her husband during the first day of a Hawaiian vacation."We’d spend all the time we were supposed to be sleeping or studying on the phone with each other." "We joke that we were going to invite the inventor of Skype to our wedding," said Ashley, 25, who met her now-live-in boyfriend on vacation in Miami.The next day, he texted the 26-year-old, “How’s it going?
There's no place for jealousy,” says Lindsey, 29, who met her fiancé during The Yacht Week in Croatia.Eventually, he sent her some Snapchat selfies of his face, and asked her to return the gesture — all before they’d even gone out! These days, it’s hardly unusual for guys and girls to engage in epic pre-first-date texting sessions.In a July study titled “Mobile’s Impact on Dating and Relationships” commissioned by online dating sites JDate and Christian Mingle, more than 60 percent of single people said they communicate more frequently with potential dates because of their phones.So if I can talk about this with dudes, anyone can. Like I said, this might be a slightly awkward convo – there might be no getting around that. Would you rather be lame and sit around waiting to hear what he thinks or would you rather take the initiative and find out where his head is on your own? Here’s what to do: first of all, this conversation should happen in person, not through text messages, Facebook chats or even on the phone.Second of all, you should be relatively calm when you bring it up.