Dating with chinese

It’s not uncommon for parents and grandparents to set their children up on blind dates with suitable matches they’ve found.

If their child’s significant other doesn’t meet with the parents’ approval, continuing the relationship will be very difficult.

A decade ago, my plans for coming to China included teaching for a year, two...maybe even three, before returning to the US to start my teaching career.

Dating was not part of my plan, so when it happened, I was completely unprepared for it.

As you may expect, dating is a little bit different in China than it is in most Western countries.

The basics are the same—people are people everywhere—but there are still a few differences regarding culture and social cues to note.

By Katherine Chong In America, the Chinese community is represented by all walks of life – educated and unschooled, Buddhist and Christian, immigrant and American-born, first generation to sixth.It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals.For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.So much so, that my husband didn't ask to date me, he asked me to be with him for the rest of his life. Compared to most of their Western counterparts, Chinese men start thinking about marriage much earlier in the relationship.So, if you're dating a Chinese guy, make sure to figure out what the both of you want out of the relationship so you can manage expectations.