Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. "Opposites attract." Like attracts like." These contradictory phrases attempt to explain mutual attraction, and why you might find yourself smitten by a certain someone.When we’re looking for love, we often look for specific characteristics: a sense of humor, perhaps, or financial solvency and kindness.But sometimes we fall in love “at first sight.” Take the case of Lila Sumin, who figured out she’d met her future husband after only a few hours.The problem is that because we have such a hard time explaining chemistry it takes on the level of myth – chemistry is just there or it isn’t. The closer you get to actually getting it but without actually being able to achieve it causes the desire to grow.Which – brace yourselves, I’m about to blow your minds – is bullshit. Marketers know this, which is why they practice artificial scarcity – they’ll tell you “Call now, supplies are running out!
And we can deliberately invoke that in the people we’re dating. What makes them work the steep drops, the loops, corkscrews and hard banking turns, it’s the loooooong build-up at the beginning. It's the unexpected electric shock of sexuality that surges through our bodies when we accidentally brush up against a stranger in a crowded subway car.It's the palpable heat that ignites when two bodies ever so suddenly find themselves inexplicably to one another.While many factors influence our choices, “we are drawn to certain people not only for cultural reasons, such as socioeconomics, intelligence, and values, but also for biological reasons,” says Helen Fisher, Ph D, a cultural anthropologist from Rutgers University and author of a new book, Why Him? According to Fisher, we all have “chemical families” associated with dopamine, serotonin, testosterone, and estrogen.People choose partners with chemicals that complement their own.