Relationships that start out with this dynamic never really recover, and as months and years pass, you may find yourself in a sexless "just friends"/ roommate arrangement.
If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
(I like smart, nerdy, shy guys so much, I married one.) It's not surprising: these men tend to be quiet leaders — successful and widely respected.
There is an art to dating introverted men, though, and this article will help you decide if this personality type is your best match.
In sub-140-character-speak, The Rules say (actual quote): “Treat him a little bit like the guy you don’t care for! But for a girl, a text from a cute guy is really special, like winning the lottery.” You’ll love The Rules if you appreciate this subtle nuance of gender behavior: “Men love to buy and sell companies as well as extreme sports like mountain climbing and bungee jumping, while women love to talk about their dates and watch romantic comedies.” Related story: Dating 'Rules' get social media reboot with tips for texting, tweets Most guys I know feel the same as Alan Goldsher, who has written about relationships for MSN and Good Men Project: “I'm a pragmatic guy, and I've always thought most dating rules are absurd, so my general vibe about ‘The Rules’ is along the lines of, “Are you f***ing kidding me? Have some basic etiquette,” said Marty Beckerman, an editor of MTV’s Guy Code Blog and the author of manly-man book “The Heming Way.” “If I've gotta work in the morning, I don't want a damn smiley-face text to wake me up at 2 a.m.
RULE 11: Girls will test guys to see how much they can skate by with. Speak your opinions, stand by your convictions, and don't put up with excessive amounts of BS. Until then, anything is fair game for both parties involved. Curb your impatience – This is advice I give both men and women in the area of texting.Patience is a hell of a virtue and it shows that you have emotional maturity.The good news is that you don't need to be an introvert to date one.But to keep your romantic energy in balance, you will want to follow some basic rules.