Aside from getting used to living with one another, we had overarching cultural differences to deal with which could really wear us down and test our marriage. Even though my husband feels very comfortable here in the States, he still doesn’t feel 100 percent at home.Even today we hit cultural nuances that test our boundaries. Not only do others treat him as a foreigner, no matter how hard he tries, this country will just never hold the same degree of comfort as his country of origin. Ever since my husband and I have been together vacations have taken on a whole new meaning: Visiting family.We live in a time where many of us pour tons of time and money into staving off the signs of aging—whether that means dutifully applying eye serum every night before bed, or hitting up your derm for some preventative Botox in your twenties.But some disturbing data shows that as women, if we want to be attractive as we age, the best thing we can do is really just not age past 20.I haven't been doing my best in praying lately, but I will start that again.I ask that our Heavenly Father sees my prayer, and blesses me with him back in my life someday.Christian Rudder, co-founder of OKCupid, wrote an article on Jezebel that delves into the dating site’s data “built from tens of millions of preferences expressed in the act of finding a date.” The data reveals some pretty depressing results about what men are looking for in women. Before 30, they’re looking for slightly older men; once they hit 30, they are interested in someone slightly younger.Throughout her forties, a woman is most attracted to men at right around the age of 40. All men, from those in their twenties to those who are fifty, want to date a woman in her early twenties. For almost every year in his thirties, a man is most attracted to a 20-year-old woman.
The cultural idiosyncrasies of my husband that I love the most can also cause me the most frustration when I’m not at my best (and mine can do the same to him! I can’t even imagine what it is like for couples who don’t speak each other’s languages! Then I had to listen to the same from him when we moved to the States.Porn is ok with another to stimulate your contact with her/him, however, you will go down a long lonly path if you let porn become your lover.Hope this helps Over A I have struggled with this same problem.The knowledge of this weighs heavy on me from time to time. I can’t remember the last time we took a long vacation that didn’t have as its core visiting family members.Since we live relatively far from my American family, we alternate vacation years so that we can visit his family one year and mine the next.