But, I also notice that many describe their own addiction of sorts – to the partner.A love and attachment you cannot shake, despite the consequences. My first suggestion would be to treat with skepticism any advice to take choice 1 over choice 2. And only you will know just how much sadness and anxiety is going to be inherent with either option.Obviously friends knew I was gay but professionally I had to shut it out.And I believe, at the time, there was good cause for thinking I’d get fired. My biggest joy was just never having to leave my house.” He remembers that when he was out with friends and if they were in a gay establishment, he used his ability to scan a room “in three seconds” to find out if there was anyone he knew there.The first thing you need to do is leave your girlfriend alone for a while. She just went from one short term relationship to another. Soon, her new relationship will end she will be in a new relationship, probably with you and hopefully for a very long time.In this case, I’d generally recommend you to move on from this short term relationship. Just like in the guide, you must analyze why you guys broke up and whether or not it’s really a good idea to get your ex girlfriend back. Of course, you are never going to ask her directly to breakup with the new boyfriend to be with you (not until you are 100% sure she will say yes). If you do, you will end up being friendzoned and before you know it, she will always be discussing her relationship problems with you.Alright, I know it sucks that your ex girlfriend is already dating someone else.
Choice 2 would be that you leave in a way that magnifies the potential for a negative outcome, say by being mean, impulsive or passive, neglecting the care of your self, your social network, financial interests and so on.And if you want that, she should come back to you knowing that you are the best option for her. I know it’s a little hard to accept considering the off chance that this one does work out. And the reward of this risk is getting her back in your life. If you and your girlfriend had been dating for a very short time (like a month or two weeks).Not just because she is confused about her emotions. Here is a few questions that might creep into your mind when I say this. In this case, since your relationship wasn’t very strong in the first place, she is not technically with a rebound guy. I know it’s a hard fact to accept, but it’s the truth. And now she is in a relationship with someone else.Choices 3 and 4 would be the most attentive, well-equipped approach to staying with her, vs. In other words, the way in which you select a choice and then follow through on it what is important, and it is where you can make nitty-gritty choices on a day-to-day basis.The working out of those specifics might be where your attention is going to be productive. Al-Anon is not for everyone in your situation, but those who do find it helpful would probably say that it’s the repeated attendance that makes it work.