There are many things an ostomate can use for intimate occasions like ‘belts’ and ‘wraps’ to give them more confidence also.Yes we have a bag of poo on our stomach, but we don’t smell and it will rarely leak unless the person is having problems in that section. We all poo, we can just see where ours is coming from!A lot of people probably think that having an ostomy will cause problems in the bedroom – but that really isn’t the case.It doesn’t affect your sex life unless you allow it to.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. I am asking this because I am one and am tossing up whether this will really work for me...I know there are genuine men out there, so please don't think I am being negative. OP -- We all have different level of comfort that we're willing to accept.In my research, it was seen that those in your position can and quite often DO go on to experience happy and very fulfilled lives, with companionship/marriage/sexual relations/etc.So it's somewhat reassuring to know that there's plenty out there that get on just fine, even with this obstacle.
The ostomy bag might have somewhat made them better and saved their life but it will still take its toll on our body and can affect us day to day.
I have had a couple of replies to my profile and as soon as they know what an Ostomate is, they disappeared... Different levels of "weird" we're ready to embrace.
For some, this situation could present a weird factor that would turn them off. I had a suspicion as to what it related to, but I went out looking and researching just to be sure as I've never heard the exact term.
Please don’t feel sorry for us or make us feel bad for having a bag, we just want to get on with it like ‘normal’ people.
We can’t always attend things spontaneously because most of us prefer to have a heads up so we can make sure everything’s okay and we are feeling well enough to go to these social occasions.