Has anyone else noticed that there’s more ‘digital small talk’ going on these days than real-life face-to-face dating?A friend and I got talking recently about this modern day penpal-esque dating dilemma.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Several women I have been chatting with lately have been a bit strange. Like an earlier poster said, to raise confidence I guess. Typical inaccurate generalization by the unsuccessful. (shakes head) I almost always mention meeting by the 3rd message or have them on the phone by then. They almost always respond positively, want to meet, plan the date, and they all actually show up, and look like their pics.We'll e-mail back and forth for a week or two, but as soon as I mention anything about meeting for a drink or cup of coffee or anything, they tend to shy away. Not everyone I've met on here have been like that, but it seems the percentage is increasing. I have had people just disappear during the messaging stage but never once a meet up has been suggested. Sometimes I think some of the people posting in the forums are on a different site.Are you currently stuck in a penpal dating situation and wondering why you’re not meeting up in real life?
The two of you say good morning and good night to each other, but there's never a concrete plan to go out.So I really don't know what to tell you - are you being pushy in some way about the meeting? People are flakey though just put it down to experience and move on. I can't say I've had that problem, a few I have just carried on conversations with, a couple seemed like they wanted to push it along faster and initiated messages everyday, so I went ahead and ask them out. There tons of folks...their own reasons....just want an email romance. "If you're not to busy this week, would you like to meet up and grab a bite to eat or a drink? But, that was the end of the conversation with her. The two of you cannot stop chatting away and you are starting to feel positive about this potential partner. Your banter and messages are fun, playful, and interesting. But somehow, you still haven't met this person yet . You two never miss a day of chatting, but this person hasn't mentioned a time to see you.