Once I disentangled my feelings about my relationships from my feelings about my own work and career, I was more confident and could make clearer choices in both areas of my life.” I respect the point she makes, but I tend to think of the choice to date a co-worker as one made on a case-by-case basis depending on circumstances, career field (who would celebs date if they didn’t date each other?) and personal readiness, not by a moral imperative. When I was in college I worked at a nightclub — partially because I needed the cash and partially because I was dating a guy who also worked there. Well, because he was awful and I was 19 and didn’t know any better.Pro: Working together completely eliminates the “should I call? ” dilemma because duh, you’re going to see him in 10 hours. Pro: It’s a really good idea to stick around afterhours and make out in the stairwell/supply closet/wherever.Con: Holy shit you’re going to see him in 10 hours! That way, if your boss is giving you shit about some bullshit you can just look past him at the spot where you were fooling around last week, and be all, “heh.” Con: You can never bang anyone at work ever ever again, because you’ll be ‘the official sponsor of office blow jobs’ and every new male hire will give you that look.It might make things more exciting to have a forbidden, secret relationship at work.Just remember, it should be based on more than that—if it lasts, you’ll have to tell people about it eventually.Anyway, here are a couple of things to keep in mind going in.
There are serious things that should be considered when you start an office romance, as dating a workmate has serious implications on all aspects of your life, and also effects those around you.
He would bring other girls into the club and I would watch them hanging out or, worse, making out and have to batten down my rage for the rest of my shift.
This was great for writing angry poetry on the back of band fliers, horrible for my mental state.
You might long for the time when you could lunch alone or with friends once in a while without hurting your partner’s feelings. It would be great to think that if you broke up you and your partner would be able to stay friends, or at the very least, cordial co-workers, but we all know that there is no way to guarantee that.
Too much time together could also make the spark begin to fade. Even if you’re both able to remain professional, it might be torture to see each other day in and day out when all you want to do is heal and move on.