As a 26-year-old black woman, I too am guilty of this.In the past, when I dated, I infrequently asked the tough questions.The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder? Key goals of a first date are to (a) see if you have a connection, and (b) find out if you and your date have any major areas of incompatibility. Why: Does the person have strong feelings or are they more easygoing and with milder feelings.
The conversations were dull and the night didn’t end up as you’d planned. But what if the date night didn’t have to be like this?Sadly, that can lead to heartbreaks and plenty of time wasted.In truth, like all other women, we deserve the most compatible partners who can withstand honesty about our expectations.Also, if anything out of the ordinary has happened that might be affecting your date’s mood, it’s good to factor this in. Also, it’s nice to give your date an opportunity to answer a question that isn't directly about them. On a first date go for a friendly tone rather than an intimate tone when asking this question. Don’t be afraid to change plans if you arrive at a restaurant and find it’s too noisy for a good conversation.