If you are new here, be sure to subscribe by email or feed reader so that you don't miss any future posts.You can also check out the Top Posts page to get a feel for the site. Every home should have its own set of family rules.At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex."My boyfriend broke up with me because of X, Y or Z reason.I feel like I can't move on with my life, and that I'll be trapped here forever. As Founder and Director of Circles of Care, Ann Cason provides caregiving, consulting, and training services to individuals and public and private organizations involved in eldercare. Over time I began to see that my guilt at not being able to help in the way that he wanted was just that: guilt. I got some counseling and also attended a support group for awhile.She is the author of Circles of Care: How to Set Up Quality Home Care for Our Elders. It was especially hard as I was a professional and felt that I should know what to do.
But what really gets my goat is that even though I’m 43 years old, she can still push my buttons and has a way of upsetting me to the extreme. Mother/daughter relationships are complicated; we all know this.Any time you feel trapped by caring, stop and take a breath. They say it takes "a village to raise a child." For someone who is old and at the end of life it takes even more. Feeling trapped by caregiving is a very common feeling.Banners went up, parties were held and gregarious mothers and daughters walked around the mall in their matching Juicy Couture tracksuit, calling each other “Besties.” I wanted to vomit. In fact, that was the biggest problem in our relationship.The boundaries were washed away in bottles of chardonnay and mothers and daughters were sharing sex stories and picking up men together at bars. As my sisters and I grew older and found our own friends and lives, my mother grew more and more bitter that our lives no longer revolved around her. As a result, she became even more eccentric and outrageous as ever before.