If you live with social anxiety disorder (SAD), or simply count yourself among the chronically shy, chances are that you will find yourself tongue-tied in these situations.
Fortunately, there are many ways to meet people that do not require you to display wit or charm on cue.
I am going to give you some suggestions to hopefully get your through a date with as little anxiety as possible.
But please know that you will inevitably feel some stress.
This type of anxiety and shyness leads to avoidance of meeting new people, as well as a sense of isolation and hopelessness about the prospect of finding a suitable partner. Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up! One minute, you're having a great date at a free outdoor concert, and the next minute, your heart is pounding and you feel like you are trapped in a Ziploc bag. "Playing it cool" is straight-up not in your repertoire. There's gotta be a country where "sitting at a bar staring into space and inevitably sweat-staining the pits of your expensive Madewell top while your brain moves 100 miles an hour" is considered playing it cool. Anyone familiar with benzos (that's an #INSIDER'S term for anxiety-alleviating tranquilizers) knows that they don't mix well with alcohol. Worst case scenario, you black out and wake up at the Formica table at an Arbys in another state. And you're so worried about whether they'll like you that you barely pay any attention to whether you like them. Every time a guy doesn't text you back in the early stages of dating you assume the worst and immediately go into crisis mode. Dating is typically a situation where people feel scrutinized, have to meet new people, and may fear they’ll do something embarrassing.In this way, dating only adds fuel to the anxiety fire.