As you read about each style see which one is most like you. Here is what we learned about their characteristics: “Maybe I know somewhere deep in my soul that love never lasts.
A leaky bucket is a good metaphor for this group, since it seems that they can never get enough validation or attention to have a “full bucket” of self-esteem and self-confidence. ’”These young single adults have learned over a lifetime that others can’t be trusted to meet their needs for comfort and security. And we’ve got to find other ways to make it alone or keep a straight face.
Find your type in this list and see what YOU'RE like to date. Find everyone you know and tell me this isn't the most weirdly accurate thing ever.
Better yet, find your partner's type and see how he or she is. You go about your quest for love as you would go about your quest for anything else in life: with careful thought and logical execution.
Natalie Gilbert and Matt Call, who were two of my research assistants, recognized these styles in a dating study we did of singles.
These three date styles can be called the “Save Me” style, the “Get Away from Me” style, and the “Come Walk with Me” style.
Frequently their past experiences with parents and in other relationships is that people can be unavailable when they need love or are insensitive to their needs. And I’ve always lived like this keeping a comfortable distance.
: While this color is the most common, that doesn’t make it predictable. Washington Redskins: Passion isn’t your problem, being a rational human being is. Chicago Bears: Lack of success certainly doesn’t prevent you from talking a big game, but like Jay Cutler, when it’s all said and done there’s a good chance you’re laying on your back with somebody 300 pounds on top of you.Now that the ride is over, you’ve still got nice things but everything else is kind of sad. New York Yankees: Money, pride, experience—none of these are a problem for you.Green Bay Packers: A good sharer and strong sense of community, you’re all about giving back. Performance when things matter most, that’s another story.