Pornography is readily available everywhere from billboards to sex flicks to websites and chat-rooms, and as easy as “sexting” pictures of oneself and others. The secrecy surely magnifies the betrayal, anger, and horror a wife feels when she discovers her husband looks at other women online.
She may have known it was a past problem and believed he lived in victory, or she may have been clueless to his addiction and feels duped by him. The discussion begins privately between the two of you (Matthew ).
To make matters worse, I wasn't some weak pick-up artist using idiotic dating boot camp approaches that reeked of negativity and douchebaggery on vulnerable women in order to break them down and manipulate them into sex. After all, it's much easier to convince people of things they think they have thought of themselves. There's nothing to fear."After another pregnant pause, she consented with a few words of sage advice:"Don't. Up.", nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.
It was quite a rush, and as the wake of emotional destruction would later exemplify, seducing women became my drug of choice."No, babe ... When you consider that these statistics are nearly double what they were a short 10 years ago, clearly this is beyond an issue; it is now commonplace. Futurist Alvin Toffler wrote the best seller in 1970, and with matter-of-fact conviction he wrote of "trial" or "temporary marriages"—young people's first marriages, lasting three months to three years—and of "serial marriages" that would take place after the dissolution of the "trial marriage" at specific turning points in people's lives. Commitment and loyalty or the lack thereof are at the crux of this.
It would be part of my research into women who cheat, why infidelity is increasing, and what can be done to possibly affair-proof a marriage.
I proposed to "cheat" on her for a few weeks, to talk to and attempt to seduce as many women as possible, and get a real-world understanding of why women want to stay married but also need some illicit action on the side.
that's not even close," I told her, not fully considering the implications of the coming situations. So, does this mean marriage has "jumped the shark" and become obsolete? After all, marriage is a legal and/or spiritual binding of two people…
Different women will experience menopause at different times but if it arrives early then some women can feel quite cheated, and have many questions.
It got to the stage where even my ankles were sweating, it was awful.
Still, she knows it is not “normal” and feels violated, exposed in shame that the man she trusted has taken what was sacred between them and viewed other women and other acts in violation to their sacred covenant of marriage. The wife’s biggest pain is that porn is a fantasy hidden away in his mind. Try to understand his depth of involvement, but it is rare to get the whole story the first time.
It can’t be stopped or monitored by another unless the porn addict chooses. She loses faith that their intimacy is real—it may just be a part of his fantasy about someone else he’s viewed. So what is a Christian wife to do when she discovers her husband is into pornography? Listen objectively before passing judgment or reacting in anger or disappointment. Listen with discernment to be sure you have the facts. God didn’t get it straight from Adam and Eve, and your husband isn’t likely to respond much better without help. Godly sorrow produces the fruit of repentance, which is to change. Keep praying and trusting God, and get help for yourself! He will need people who can listen with compassion and humility, and who know we all are candidates to sin (Galatians 6:1-5).
Of course, on my end, there'd be nothing more than conversation. I searched her eyes for any telltale sign of the Charles-I'm-going-to-punch-you-in-the-face-right-after-I-castrate-you look; nothing.
After a long pause, I got her only thought: "No, I get it," she said emphatically. But it's kinda like asking the newly vegetarian fox to guard the henhouse, isn't it? I worked hard to become the embodiment of seduction.